2020 has provided time to reflect, watch, listen, think and look inward. Without the usual meetings, gatherings or parties to attend and to look forward to, we all have had more time “alone” or, at least, in the company of our own families. Such allows for, or requires, a bit of reflection.
I grew up with my mom saying, “what does not kill you makes you stronger”. At that time, the saying was not a Kelly Clarkson song but simply an old saying intended to help me see some benefit for pain and resilience. As you can imagine, the quote, attributed to the German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche, generally did not produce its desired result. And, while the quote may allow us to hope that some benefit might come from 2020, I don’t believe anyone would ask for the strength that only 2020 could bring.
Somehow, it is my desire and hope that we are all able to enter 2021 as better people, drawing on the lessons of 2020. In that light, here are some of my observations, musings and lessons learned in 2020:
- I really miss, more than I ever thought I would, seeing a person’s smile and full face;
- Being required to stay at home makes some people senseless;
- Hugs and strong handshakes connect people in a way nothing else can;
- Gathering together matters;
- Life is a balancing act;
- To reach your goals, you must first look at where you have been and where you are;
- Challenges bring out the best or worst in people;
- There is no replacement for students being in class;
- Pandemics are harder on extraverts;
- There is nothing better than a book for entertainment;
- I can work well from home, but I somehow feel more productive at the office;
- A Zoom call can be better than a phone call, but it does not compare to an in-person meeting;
- Take out is not nearly as fun as eating out;
- There is no one I would rather spend time with than my family, even after hours (upon hours) together;
- My family law clients are amazing – during a pandemic, separating OR staying with a spouse from whom you need to separate is more than difficult and successfully co-parenting during a pandemic should provide angel wings.
We have almost completed 2020. It would behoove us all to learn what we can from 2020, so we move into 2021 as stronger persons. Here’s to an amazing 2021, in which we all focus on what is most important in life!
Laura Burt is a family law attorney and partner of Wofford Burt, PLLC. For more information about Laura’s practice, visit https://www.woffordburt.com/our-team/Laura-burt/